Category Archives: Career

Today’s thoughts and yesterday’s first compliment

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There’s been a lot of different things on my mind lately: career, naps, my pants that still don’t fit… Not sure where to start.  I guess I’ll start at the beginning.

Naps are great this week.  Vi cries for two minutes, then she’s down for the count.  She up to 3-4 naps per day (one between every feeding).  Mostly short naps, but sometimes a long nap midday.  And beyond swaddling and a song, she falls asleep with no help from me.  But who knows?  It could change tomorrow.  She still wakes up a couple hours earlier in the morning (4am ish) than usual due to fussing through her last evening feeding.  But thanks to naps, I can get a nap too.

I’m thinking a lot about pursuing an interpreter’s certificate in ASL.  I don’t think its a coincidence that we moved within 20 miles of the deaf education mecca: Gallaudet University.  They have a Master’s Program in Interpreting.  But the four years of ASL I took in college fell right out of my brain, so I’m far from applying.  Plus, I don’t have the money to pay for school.  There may be scholarships, but like i said, there will be a lot to do before I can actually pursue a Masters.  I did a search for local ASL classes so I could brush up on my sign, but I haven’t had much luck… and again, we don’t have extra money right now to pay for a class.  I’m still looking.

My pants: one pair does fit, but the others don’t.  They didn’t fit before I was pregnant either, but I’m still cranky about it.  We’ve been getting free pies and cakes and such lately, and Eric and I have been really good at getting rid of them.  I’ve put the diet on hold for now.  Eric assures me I’m beautiful, so I’ll believe him for now until I get a new plan!

Besides some evening feeding issues, Vi has been great.  I’m LOVING the 3 month mark.  Looking back, the first two months suck because your baby is still adjusting to the world, and you are too!  Your new world.  I’m eating dairy again, and I don’t even know if the no-dairy approach did much of anything.  She’s such a happy little girly now, that its hard to believe how high-needs she was for a while there.  I know it will fluctuate, but its nice to know she’s adjusting well.

Yesterday, I drove all over downtown DC with her, and she did great.  In fact, she was awake for the whole two hours I was chatting with a friend in a coffee shop, just sitting on my lap, and taking things in.  A girl who was sitting across from us, came over, and told me what a good baby I had.  “I haven’t heard a peep the whole time I’ve been here!”  The compliment took me by surprise.  I have been so busy living day-to-day, I didn’t expect Viola to be consistent.    I replied:

“Well, she had a nap and she ate…so…yeah!  She’s pretty happy right now!  Thanks.”

I almost replied with, “Just wait an hour”, but I just enjoyed the compliment.  It sure beats the glares from old men at restaurants.

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Career after kids(?)

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To address the “life after kids” title…Its not that I’m surprised theres life after kids, its that there are sacrifices made when new relationships are sealed: marriage and kids.  I’m still trying to make sense of the career thing both after marriage and especially after kids.

I went to college to be a theatre techie–mostly design and stage management.  I love stories and I love art.  Voila! Theatre.  I also wanted to get married.  I met a cute Paleontological Museum Studies cutie named Eric when I was finishing my bachelor’s degree.  I locked that down quick, and was married a year later.  But soon I realized that being married and working in theatre was difficult… unless your spoise worked nights too.  And thats assuming you got a good paying gig.  After I graduated, I thought I could snag a decent gig in Denver to make ends meet, but once again I was at the very bottom of the food chain, dreading having to claw my way back up again.  Without a masters degree.  Great.

Solution?  I got promoted to shift supervisor at Starbucks  for a whopping 9.25/hour.  What a crappy deal.  I hated every minute of it because I was a rule follower, and I got transferred to a branch that wasn’t too keen on rules.  I was not a favorite.  It was one of those jobs where I contemplated crashing my car into the highway median, risking major bodily harm, just to get out of work that day.  Eventually I managed to score a decent admin job, skimming over the part of my resume that said “Design Technology Theatre”, and pretending that Stage Management was simply admin…just for a theatre.  Partly true..except S.M.ing was fun sometimes.

I managed to get small gigs here and there for small theatre companies, hoping I would someday work a job that wasn’t a contract.

Fast forward 4 years, and here we are in DC.  I’ve done admin consistently since graduating because theatre doesn’t pay enough to cover our school loan debt.  I worked for the theatre dept. at a Community College in MD for a season, and enjoyed it.  They paid well, and didn’t abuse me like most theatre companies do.  They asked me to come back this season and I said no because I was about to have a baby.

Bottom line: I wanted to get married so much more than to have a career in theatre.  But I love the process, and I’m formally trained in it.  I tend to stick my nose up at gigs that don’t pay, avoid Community Theatre like the plague, but don’t have enough experience to get hired somewhere that might sustain us financially.  I’m loving staying home with Vi and working some admin from my computer to keep some money coming in, but I’m afraid of losing myself in this new stage.

I’m afraid I won’t get back in the swing of things and lose my grip on what little “career” I had going in the DC area.  Sometimes I talk with a friend of mine who still works with the College and I get this pain in the pit of my stomach, because I fear I won’t return.

Any thoughts from others on the subject of doing what you love after adding more people that you love to your family?