Monthly Archives: November 2011

Target Date

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Last night, Eric and I went out on a “Target Date” after we put Vi to bed.  A friend of ours stayed at the house and watched Netflix while we went to Target to do some shopping.  The most fun part was going to the baby section and looking at little girl Christmas dresses.  Eric is such a sucker for Christmas, and I’m  a sucker for dresses, so it was fun.  Since Vi was already in bed, there was no babysitting anxiety.  We got lattes at the Starbucks for dessert and headed home.  After an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, we went to bed and exchanged foot massages.

What a fun night!  And no expensive dinner.  Vi slept until 6:15am, and the three of us are hanging out for the morning.  I love the weekends, and I love simple date nights!

Today’s thoughts and yesterday’s first compliment

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There’s been a lot of different things on my mind lately: career, naps, my pants that still don’t fit… Not sure where to start.  I guess I’ll start at the beginning.

Naps are great this week.  Vi cries for two minutes, then she’s down for the count.  She up to 3-4 naps per day (one between every feeding).  Mostly short naps, but sometimes a long nap midday.  And beyond swaddling and a song, she falls asleep with no help from me.  But who knows?  It could change tomorrow.  She still wakes up a couple hours earlier in the morning (4am ish) than usual due to fussing through her last evening feeding.  But thanks to naps, I can get a nap too.

I’m thinking a lot about pursuing an interpreter’s certificate in ASL.  I don’t think its a coincidence that we moved within 20 miles of the deaf education mecca: Gallaudet University.  They have a Master’s Program in Interpreting.  But the four years of ASL I took in college fell right out of my brain, so I’m far from applying.  Plus, I don’t have the money to pay for school.  There may be scholarships, but like i said, there will be a lot to do before I can actually pursue a Masters.  I did a search for local ASL classes so I could brush up on my sign, but I haven’t had much luck… and again, we don’t have extra money right now to pay for a class.  I’m still looking.

My pants: one pair does fit, but the others don’t.  They didn’t fit before I was pregnant either, but I’m still cranky about it.  We’ve been getting free pies and cakes and such lately, and Eric and I have been really good at getting rid of them.  I’ve put the diet on hold for now.  Eric assures me I’m beautiful, so I’ll believe him for now until I get a new plan!

Besides some evening feeding issues, Vi has been great.  I’m LOVING the 3 month mark.  Looking back, the first two months suck because your baby is still adjusting to the world, and you are too!  Your new world.  I’m eating dairy again, and I don’t even know if the no-dairy approach did much of anything.  She’s such a happy little girly now, that its hard to believe how high-needs she was for a while there.  I know it will fluctuate, but its nice to know she’s adjusting well.

Yesterday, I drove all over downtown DC with her, and she did great.  In fact, she was awake for the whole two hours I was chatting with a friend in a coffee shop, just sitting on my lap, and taking things in.  A girl who was sitting across from us, came over, and told me what a good baby I had.  “I haven’t heard a peep the whole time I’ve been here!”  The compliment took me by surprise.  I have been so busy living day-to-day, I didn’t expect Viola to be consistent.    I replied:

“Well, she had a nap and she ate…so…yeah!  She’s pretty happy right now!  Thanks.”

I almost replied with, “Just wait an hour”, but I just enjoyed the compliment.  It sure beats the glares from old men at restaurants.

Movie Review: Lovely, Still

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As I was perusing Netflix instant, I came across Lovely, Still with Martin Landau.  It is a story set at Christmas about an elderly bachelor who is asked out on a date by his new neighbor.  It got four stars, so I gave it a chance, and I was not disappointed.

The film begins as a straight-forward , charming look into the awkward process of dating into your senior years.  Don’t mistake this for a “grumpy Old Men” remake, because its far from it.  The film weaves a deeper story that will leave you wrapped up in these two people’s love for each other.  Its a great date-night movie for you and your spouse with a holiday feel, but with surprising depth.  And from someone who is picky about love stories (dare I say chick flicks?  Bleck!), this is a great pick.

Dating Your Husband

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My friend, Joy, told me about this website, The Dating Divas a couple years ago.  It was started by 11 wives who wanted to think up ways to keep their  marriages fun, focus on their husbands, and not let life get in the way.  I loved the concept, although Joy warned me the site was a bit on the cheesy side.  I haven’t actually done any of the suggestions on the site, but I skim the newsletter every so often.

I noticed that some of the special, thoughtful ideas were fun, but the crafty details wouldn’t appeal to Eric.  For example, you can buy your husband his favorite drink or dessert, and then make a crafty label out of pretty paper with a pun on it expressing your affection.  Eric would appreciate that I bought him something special, but he wouldn’t be any more keen on it because of the pun attached.  And we’re not really punny people.  To give them credit, the crafty details do lend to many women’s strengths and talents, so its self-fulfilling. Other date ideas included scavenger hunts, coupon books for football season, etc.  Pretty cheesy, but fun.

Have you ever given someone a gift you truly wanted?  In the end, you loved it more than they did?  I feel like women appreciate the cute details and thoughtfulness of spontaneous gifts or well thought-out plans from our men.  I feel like some of the Dating Divas things are fun, but women would rather have their men think of them first!

Eric and I’s ideal cheap date night is a trip to the store for a quick dinner–this week we did a cheap-o Asian Fusion menu.  We bought pot stickers, then supplemented at home with some steamed rice, miso soup and sliced pear.  We also bought our favorite movie candy and planned to get a Red Box movie for 1$.  We didn’t find anything we wanted, so we found a movie on Netflix…and Voila!  Date night at home.  It was fun.

Anybody else have favorite date-nights ideas or thoughtful daily reminders?  Does your husband like crafty details, or is he a man of simple tastes like mine?

Lady Death-strike and her mom with the clippers

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Good part of the day: Viola napped a bunch today…its the daddy vibes since Eric had the day off.  But this morning she slashed her face with her extra long baby claws (google Lady Deathstrike), causing the most heart wrenching sound that has yet to come out of her.  She has drawn blood before with those nails, but never cried quite like this.  It was terrible.  In the end, she was just fine, but she had a red, raised scratch on her cheek.

It was time to clip her nails, we knew, but there hasn’t been a good time to do it.  When she’s awake, she’s too squirmy.  When she’s asleep, the clipping sound startles her awake and she jerks her hands.  When she’s nursing, she clenches and kneads her little fists like a kitten.  Eric was feeding her this evening from a bottle when I took a stab at it.  Yes, pun intended.  On the first nail, I clipped her skin, and she began to bleed and cry like she did this morning.  That cry just about broke me.  I almost ran upstairs and hid in a dark corner.  It took me awhile to get ahold of myself, but after a moment, she was just fine again.  We disinfected the cut and put her to bed without any crying.  She got three bedtime songs this evening instead of the one, and she smiled and chatted at me while I sang.  I think that made up for it!  I know this is just the beginning of unintentionally hurting my child, but at least now she won’t hold it against me.

Castaway on the Moon

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I was perusing Netflix Instant when I came across a random movie that Netflix reviewed as nearly 5 full stars (out of 5).  Castaway on the Moon is a sub-titled Korean film I had never heard of, but I was intrigued at the 5 stars and watched it this week.

The movie begins with a man, standing on a bridge about to jump off, but makes one more phone call to the loan company to confirm the grand total of his accumulated debt.  “That makes me all the more certain”, he replies, and jumps.  In the next scene, he is washed up on a deserted shore.  As he begins to take in his surroundings, he realizes he had washed up on an island a couple miles from the bridge he just jumped off.  The highway overpass is the only thing touching this piece of land, and since he never learned to swim, he is stuck.  After trying to hang himself with his tie, he gives up, before he suddeny realizes he doesn’t have to deal with the world, his debt, or his girlfriend who recently dumped him.

As he tries to create a new life for himself on this island filled with washed-up trash, he is unknowingly being watched through a telescopic photo lense by an agoraphobic girl who never leaves her apartment.  I would highly recommend this film.  Its seriousness is cut by its charming and quirky characters, trying to figure out who they are, and finding each other in the process.

Nap update

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Things are generally a lot better.  Today is going smoothly (so far), and I’m accepting Vi is a short napper.  She doesn’t need as much sleep during the day (she only naps around 30-45 minutes), so the loose schedule looks something like this:

6am Wake, feed

Sometime between 8am and 8:30am: I put Vi down for Nap, allowing for a buffer of 10-15 minutes cry time

9:00am feed (sometimes a bit earlier)

11:00-11:30am Put Vi down for nap

etc, etc.

She’s been eating every 2.5-3 hours, and her wake-time is around 2 hours, before she needs a nap.  The wake-time includes however long it takes her to eat.

The “schedule” gets hairier in the evenings since breast milk gets thinner in the evening, I might feed her more frequently, and I try and get her a good late afternoon nap before bedtime, but that doesn’t always work.

She did an odd thing last night…we got her to bed at 7pm with a full belly, and she woke up at 3am to eat.  Very weird.  I put her back down right after the feeding and she slept until 7:30am, which actually got me more sleep in the end.  So…yay?  I get so full at night, I welcome those random feedings every so often so I don’t hurt so bad in the morning.